Afghani father and fallen soldier left a legacy of genuine friendship.


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This Thursday, August 25, 2009, marks the 13th anniversary of the death of Army Capt. John L. Hallett III, 30, who was killed in southern Afghanistan along with three other soldiers by an improvised roadside bomb.

Hallett earned his degree from West Point. He left Lisa, his wife, and their three kids behind (the youngest child, a daughter, was born after Hallett died, so he never got to see or hold her).

According to the West Point website, he was stationed at Fort Lewis, Washington, with the 1st Battalion, 17th Infantry Regiment, 5th Stryker Brigade, and 2nd Infantry Division.


According to several stories, the soldiers were returning from a medical mission where they had distributed medication to halt an outbreak of the bacterial sickness cholera.

Army Capt. John Hallett is photographed during his time in Afghanistan.

13 years ago, the church for Hallett’s funeral was packed with mourners who wished to pay their respects.

Because so many of his friends wanted to share memories of him paying homage to Hallett’s love of lists, they were divided into categories.
One of Hallett’s boyhood friends, 43-year-old Patrick DeGroot, remarked, “I feel humor is a trait that I believe is important for the relationship to flourish.
What might have been a minor argument with John was no match for a good laugh.
He told Fox News Digital, “John was able to be excellent friends with so many people because he had this characteristic.

“Against the attack of laughter, nothing can stand,” he added, quoting Mark Twain. What might have been a minor argument with John was no match for a good laugh.

KID HAPPY-GO-LUCKY At Southern California’s Cedars-Sinai Hospital, John Hallett was born on July 6, 1978. When he was five years old, his family moved to Pleasant Hill in Northern California.

His mother, Wendy Swanson Hallett, said: “We moved at Thanksgiving, so he made a few friends in Pleasant Hill.”
The family eventually relocated to Concord, California, a close residential area, but young John first found the transition difficult.
His mother continued, “He had a terrible time without any pals.

Army Captain John Hallett with his wife Lisa and their young children.

“We found it challenging to integrate into the community where we moved. In hindsight, I believe it is what made him so hospitable and accommodating of everybody “His mom made a note.

He had experienced what it felt like to be rejected by a small number of pals, she added.

From first to eighth grades, Hallett attended St. Agnes Elementary School in Concord, California. He was seen as a cheerful young man with a few freckles and not-so-subtle red hair.

He began picking up jobs on the weekends performing magic performances for anyone willing to see as he began gaining friends.
When things got difficult, “he could pull a rabbit out of his hat.”

When things became difficult, “he loved magic and literally at times could conjure a rabbit out of his hat,” a buddy, David Adler, told Fox News Digital. Adler was one of Hallett’s best friends and they attended the same elementary and high schools.

To have the opportunity to get up early in the morning and deliver newspapers in a bag strapped over their shoulders that occasionally felt heavier than they were as children, Hallett decided to become a paperboy for the neighborhood newspaper, and another classmate was motivated to follow.

Much loved and never forgotten: Army Capt. John Hallett is shown with oldest child, Jackson  who today is 16 years old.

Hallett participated in Cub Scouts as a child, played baseball during the hot summers, dreamed about home runs while playing baseball during the school year, and played basketball during the competition season. But swimming was the one sport that made him.

He eagerly anticipated the end of each school year so that he could begin training with the neighborhood swim team or spend time with his family in the summer lake, honing his cannonballs and showing off his brand-new buzz cut.

He instantly signed up to play water polo with a group of students who were as clueless about the sport but equally determined to become great when he first enrolled at Concord, California’s De La Salle High School.

His height also increased as his group of pals enlarged. He was over six feet tall by his senior year, but his two younger brothers eventually outgrew him.

We gave him the nickname Madgame because he was fierce in any sport he engaged in, notably swimming and playing water polo, according to Adler.

His height also increased as his group of pals enlarged. He was over six feet tall by his senior year, but his two younger brothers eventually outgrew him. His mother added, “But he could always beat them.”

He went to the United States Military Academy at West Point after high school. He was given a chance to play water polo there during his first year in college.

John Hallett attended West Point, graduating three months before the 9/11 terror attacks. He then reported to Fort Benning, Georgia.

He admitted to his parents that participating in water polo made it easier for him because it gave him access to more perks than many of his other college peers.

But the anxiety persisted.

On Valentine’s Day in 2003, he popped the question to Lisa near the peak of Diamond Head, a volcanic cone on the Hawaiian island of Oahu.

From the very brief period that West Point permitted him to leave school, his parents pushed him to have his friends over to celebrate his accomplishments there, sometimes by merely watching boxing fights on television.

He reported to Fort Benning, Georgia, for infantry officer basic training after graduating three months before to the 9/11 terrorist attacks, according to the Los Angeles Times.

He received one of his top options for a military station because of his success at West Point. The Honolulu newspaper said that Hallett reported for duty at Schofield Barracks in the spring of 2002.

John Hallett proposed to his girlfriend Lisa in 2003 at the top of Diamond Head on the island of Oahu, Hawaii.

According to the Los Angeles Times, he proposed to Lisa, his future wife, on Valentine’s Day in 2003 while standing atop Diamond Head, a volcanic cone on the Hawaiian island of Oahu.

She discussed with Fox Digital News how she started the nationwide organization Run to Remember in honor of her late spouse.

According to her website, she just completed a 100-mile run to collect money for “people preparing for a deployment, living through a deployment, recovering from a deployment, and healing from loss incurred during a deployment.”

Lisa Hallett started Run to Remember in her husband John's memory; it is today a national nonprofit with thousands of runners. It honors the service and sacrifice of America's military.

As a “reminder that freedom isn’t free—it was purchased and paid for by men and women in uniform,” she created it.

In January 2004, only three weeks after his wedding, John Hallett was called to active duty for a 13-month tour of duty in Iraq.
He returned to Fort Polk, Louisiana, in March 2006 to take a position as a platoon senior observer-controller after leaving Hawaii again in early 2005.
He arrived in Fort Lewis in the latter part of 2007, where he worked as a company commander, assistant operations officer, and battalion personnel officer.


In November 2008, he was given leadership of a Stryker infantry company, according to the website of the George W. Bush Presidential Centers.

His third kid, Heidi, was born back in the United States a few weeks after he deployed with his unit to southern Afghanistan in July 2009, the report added.

John and Lisa Hallett's children, Heidi, Bryce and Jackson, are seen here after a Memorial Day road race. andquot;I run for my dad,andquot; their sign says.

He never got to meet his new daughter because he was killed in battle not long after.

This week, according to his wife Lisa, “he had a quiet way of doing the right thing without in a showboating, or in a condescending manner toward anyone else.”

Added she, “In today’s era of social media and Instagram, I believe we frequently have this ideal of the picture-perfect life. With John, the beauty of his existence was in the simplicity of daily living, his presence, and his earnest honesty.”

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Additionally, she added, “it made you feel like you wanted to be a part of that when you were around that.”

AUTHENTIC, GOOD, AND KIND Adler told Fox News Digital that Hallett was “one of the nicest individuals you will ever meet outside of the water.”

“He had a great sense of humor and loved being around people. All of John’s pals could always count on him for assistance “Added he.
“He was a fantastic husband and parent who gave his all. Although he is sadly missed, his three lovely children carry on his legacy.”

The death of a relationship is sad because we are losing someone who understood us, supported us, and had a significant shared history with us, according to Shasta Nelson, friendship expert and author of “Frientimacy: How to Deepen Friendships for Lifelong Health and Happiness.”

She said that “a friendship is built every time two people both spend continuous time together in a way that leaves them both feeling seen and liked” in an interview with Fox News Digital.